To anyone who has ever been lied to about what love is supposed to look like or are in a realationship that feels toxic.
Do you constantly feel like it is all your fault?
Have you felt the air in your lungs grow weak from feeling the joy suffocated from you?
Do you wreak havoc on your spirit from staying with someone because, “it will get better” or “we have always been, we are ‘soul mates’, we have known each other forever.”
I am sorry. You have been lied to. Let me show you what love really is and share with you a broken past that has been made whole. And a heart that has been set free in agape love.
Love looks like a man laying down his life for you no matter what. Fighting for you to see truth , even if it means sacrificing his own emotions.
Love isn’t words. It isn’t just a feeling. Though feeling loved is important, knowing your loved through consistent actions needs to come over feelings of love.
Love is the action of bestowing compassion for someone selflessly and expecting nothing in return. Choosing to love in spite of offense. Choosing to see one another in the light of who they are, not what behavior they are displaying in that moment. It chooses to forgive, when others would walk away.
It’s choosing to stay and fight through the resistance, together. Overcoming it all as a team. It’s being a team player, when the other person is at a stand still, and just can’t be there for you that moment.
Love is being able to show compassion, even when your heart is aching with pain.
Not to say you should stay in abusive relationships, hear me out, that’s not at all what I am saying. When I mean you stay and fight, I mean that this person is generally there for you, you guys may get on each others nerves at times, but you don’t have any distrust or confusion on to whether they truly love you. There is no lack of trust, no lack of security, even in the midst of an argument you can know that they will keep loving you and really do have your best interest in mind. That they arent trying to cause you pain or hurt you ever intentionally. And they know how to admit their wrong and say sorry. They can forgive easy and they don’t keep a list of things you do wrong.
So when you are in a relationship, that literally is sucking life out of you. But you feel connected or drawn to that person as if you are soul mates. Your not, There is such thing as a soul tie and by certain declarations and intimacy your souls can be intertwined together but it can be broken. You do not have to be in a dysfunctional relationship, and you CAN get over someone who you first loved. They don’t have to haunt you forever. I promise.
It all starts with the blood of Jesus. And right now is the time to give him your whole life. He makes ALL things new. And can completely wash your past in a sea of forgetfulness. Allow him to make his home in your heart. He will teach you what real love looks like, ask him to encounter you with his love. He never fails.
Here’s a prayer if you want to give your life to him, believe with your heart and confess this now:
“God, thank you for sending your son to die for me. I believe that Jesus is the son of God and that he died on the cross and rose again to set me completely free. Jesus I ask you to come make your home in my heart and I surrender my whole life to you. I cannot do this without you. Show me your love. I want to know you. I repent of the ways that I have been living. Wash out my past completely. Help me live a life of abundance.”
Get yourself the word of God. The bible. Feed on it as food. It will be your spiritual food and is the place where your mind will be renewed. We need it on a daily basis to renew our minds. Holy Spirit will speak to you through the word and also just speak in general. Jesus said Holy Spirit is our helper. Ask God to fill you with his Holy Spirit, to baptize you with his fire. Whatever you ask according to the will of God, you receive!!!